Control, or at least "perceived" control, is the cause of so much suffering in our world today. Life would be so much easier if people would just accept the fact that we are rarely in control of anything. We plan and "take charge" of the situation, but are we really in control? I would venture to say that we are in control less than 1% of the time, yet we perceive ourselves to be in control almost all of the time.
You only really have control over three things in your life; the thoughts you think, the words you speak, and the actions you take. That's it, that's all. Oh sure, you may think (pardon the pun) you have control over all things going on around you, but do you? Your walking down the street, feeling confident and in control, after all, you just got that promotion at work and you're ready to celebrate. Suddenly you get a phone call from your boss asking you to come back to work because she needs your help. Loss of control. Here comes the stress.
Most of our stress and anxiety are cause by a perceived notion that we are in control and then finding out that indeed we're not. Stress and anxiety don't' exist in the physical world, by the way. If I asked you to go out and bring me back a bucket of stress or anxiety, could you do it? Of course not. Because they aren't a physical entity. Problem is, we treat them as if they are!
However, where they do exist is in our emotions, and our feelings. And since we are emotional beings this hits us extremely hard. I believe that over 90% of our feelings of stress and anxiety are due to a perceived loss of control. Perceived because if you take the time to reflect on it, we never had control to begin with, so how could we lose it?
Since we are in control of our thoughts, and thoughts do indeed become things, why can't we just relax a little and instead of thinking about all we must accomplish, just focus on who we need to become in order to accomplish those tasks. If I choose to be a happy person, I could do it in an instant because happiness is a state of being. It's not a state of having, so there is no way for me to lose control. I just tell myself I am a happy person, then continue to think thoughts, speak words, and perform actions that make me happy. No loss of control, because I never felt I had to be in control in the first place, I was simply just being me.
I know this sounds a little over-simplified, but simplicity is something we should all strive to have more of in our lives. Remember, the thoughts you think today plant the seeds for your reality tomorrow.
You've been listening to the Soul Mechanic, and it's been my absolute pleasure to serve you. Sending you Love, Happiness, and, Abundance, now, and always. Have a great weekend!
Bye for now!