If you want to have sex and your partner doesn't, (or vice versa) for example, support and express the feelings you have. Then your partner can respond and you can each keep moving to a deeper level of communication. It may be that you and your partner need to talk, there might be some suppressed anger or hurt. Keep supporting and expressing how you feel; this allows the energy to move freely.
Be open to experiencing a different form of sexuality than usual. The energy may lead to simply sitting together, lying together,holding each other, massaging one another, or something else that you may not usually do, but could be satisfying in and of itself. Be true to your feelings and the right actions will emerge.
A deadness occurs in relationships when people are no longer willing to tell each other how they feel. When people first fall in love they're willing to do this because they're still getting to know each other and dependency has not set in yet. As soon as it does, however, people often stop sharing their true feelings out of fear of loss. "Who would I be if i did not have this person in my life?" They seem to be saying. You would still be you, perhaps alone, but still you. Without the dependency you may be able to think things through a little clearer and then act upon your feelings.
Passion is not something that just disappears. It leaves us when we are no longer open to our feelings, when we're willing to lose ourselves to keep someone else. Some thing you should never do. To experience passion, we must first be true to ourselves and then honest with others. Passion in a partnership is true intimacy with each other. As you become more of an open channel for your feelings, you'll become an open channel for the passion and joy that can flow through you.
Have you experienced this kind of pain or joy? Feel free to share your experiences below in the blog or just leave a comment. I'd love to hear from you. As always, keep what resonates with you and leave the rest.
P.S. Remember," You're the one!"